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Lately, I’ve been scrolling through my feed and seeing a lot of posts that say, “Move in silence.” It’s everywhere.

And while I understand where that advice is coming from, I can’t help but wonder… is silence really what we need right now? Or is it time to start moving in discernment instead?

Let’s talk about it.

Why “Move in Silence” Became the Go-To Advice for Women

For a long time, “move in silence” has been handed down like wisdom—especially for women. We’ve been told not to share our plans too early, to protect our peace, to wait until things are “done” before speaking on them. And in some cases, it is solid advice.

Some of us have had our ideas stolen. Some of us have been talked out of our goals by people who couldn’t see our vision. Some of us have trusted the wrong folks, only to be left discouraged or distracted.

So yes—moving in silence can feel safe. Controlled. Empowering.

But here’s the flip side…

Silence Doesn’t Always Equal Strength

A lot of women are suffering in silence, and this “don’t say anything until it’s done” mindset can keep us isolated.

Not every goal is a secret.
Not every dream needs to be hidden.
Not every season of your life should be suffered through alone.

When we only move in silence, we risk cutting ourselves off from the support, encouragement, and real community we need to grow. And sis, you don’t have to struggle in private just to prove how strong you are.

The Power of Moving in Discernment

What if the answer isn’t silence… but discernment?

Discernment is about wisdom. It’s knowing who to share with, when to speak, and what to protect. It’s not about fear—it’s about trusting your gut and guarding your spirit without isolating yourself.

Moving in discernment allows you to be open—but intentional.
It lets you receive help—but with boundaries.
It gives you room to breathe without constantly looking over your shoulder.

You don’t have to tell everyone everything. But you also don’t have to keep everything bottled up just to feel safe.

We Need Safe Spaces—Not Just Silence

I’m saying this as someone who’s been there: silence feels good when trust has been broken. But healing doesn’t happen in hiding—it happens in safe, sacred spaces where we can be real, be messy, and still be loved.

If your silence is rooted in fear, trauma, or feeling like no one has your back—it might be time to find new community, not new secrets.

Let’s start building those spaces where women can move in discernment and not fear. Where we don’t have to be perfect to be supported. Where healing is louder than shame.

Final Thoughts

So, which is better—move in silence or move in discernment?

Discernment wins every time.

Because at the end of the day, we weren’t created to do life alone. And while some things are sacred and worth keeping private, you deserve a space where you can be seen, supported, and still protected.

Your voice matters. Your process matters. And you don’t have to shrink or silence yourself to be wise.

If this hit home, share it with another woman who’s been carrying too much in silence. Let her know she’s not alone.