The Road of Becoming: Five Journeys, One Truth

We don’t all walk the same path, but the road of becoming asks the same thing of us all: awareness, honesty, and growth.

The Circle of Becoming isn’t just a brand name. It’s a living truth. Each of us is in a process—growing, stretching, and sometimes struggling—into the woman we were always meant to be.

Becoming isn’t neat, and it isn’t linear. It’s layered, like petals unfolding one by one.

Some people may scroll through my blog titles and think, “Wow, so many sad stories.” But what it really is, is the work of unpeeling layer after layer. Each post you read is not just a topic—it’s a layer of my life I had to confront, pull back, and process just to get here.

And let me be honest: doing that was triggering. Some layers cut deep enough that I needed therapy to cope with the wounds I exposed. Wounds from motherhood. Wounds from my own childhood. Wounds I thought were buried, but they resurfaced as I wrote, asking to be healed instead of hidden.

That’s the beauty and the burden of becoming—it’s not a highlight reel. It’s raw, it’s humbling, and it’s necessary.

But let me also share this: I didn’t start this blog just to write my way through pain. I started it to create something I wish I had at the lowest points of my journey—accessible wisdom for women who are tired of being sick and tired, ready to take their lives back, and searching for a safe space to find their voice again.

This blog is for the woman who feels stretched thin by life’s demands, yet knows God has called her to more. It’s for the mother who loves deeply but carries silent wounds. It’s for the daughter still haunted by her past. It’s for the woman who’s ready to stop just existing and start becoming whole.

God has given us one life to live—and it’s time to live it gracefully whole.

Walking the Roads of Becoming Together

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I’ve come to see my journey not as one straight path, but as many roads—roads I had to walk, sometimes circle back to, and sometimes crawl through, before I could stand where I am today. These roads mirror not only our personal journeys but even the way creation itself shows us transformation is possible.

1. The Road of Rejection — Learning to Stand Upright

For me, this was where it all began: saying no to the titles and labels others tried to put on me. “Too broken.” “Too late.” “Not enough.” Just as humanity once learned to stand upright, freeing our hands to create and build, I had to rise up from under those words and take my own stand.

2. The Road of Release — Letting Go of What Weighs Us Down

Next came release. And let me tell you—release is not easy. I had to let go of relationships I clung to out of fear. I had to release shame I wore like a second skin. I had to stop carrying weights that weren’t mine. Just as our ancestors released what no longer served survival, I had to release what no longer served my wholeness.

3. The Road of Rebuilding — Starting from the Ground Up

Release makes room—but rebuilding fills it. This was the stage where I had to rebuild my life one habit, one prayer, one boundary at a time. It wasn’t fast, and some days it didn’t feel like progress at all. But I came to see what scientists call slow growth: the idea that real strength comes with time. My rebuilding season wasn’t wasted—it was laying bricks for the life I live now.

4. The Road of Redefining — Calling Myself by a New Name

At some point, I had to stop answering to names and roles that didn’t fit me anymore. I had to redefine myself. Instead of being trapped by “just a mom,” “just a woman with a past,” or “just surviving”—I started naming myself the way God sees me: healed, whole, becoming. Redefining was about choosing a new language for my life.

5. The Road of Rebirth — From Survival Into Flourishing

And finally, there was rebirth. This is where scars no longer kept me bound—they became my testimony. Rebirth didn’t erase my past; it reframed it. It showed me that I wasn’t made to live my whole life in survival mode. God was calling me to flourish, to grow, to become everything He intended from the very beginning.

Many Roads, One Circle

I don’t share these roads as “steps to follow.” I share them as living proof that becoming is possible—even when it feels impossible. We don’t all walk them the same way. Some of us loop back. Some leap forward. Some crawl. But no matter what, every road leads back to the same truth: we were made to live gracefully whole.

🌹 Reflection Time

Which road are we walking together right now? Write it down, and notice the wisdom you’re uncovering as you peel back your own layers. Remember—your journey is part of this circle too, and we become whole together, not alone.

In Closing