The Circle of Becoming: Self-Discovery •Becoming • Purpose

There’s a certain kind of exhaustion that comes from always having to be strong. From never having the luxury of leaning on someone when the weight of life becomes unbearable. Some of us are born into love, guidance, and stability. Others are born into survival.

My great-grandmother became the only semblance of stability I ever knew. She did the best she could with what she had, offering me the love my own parents could not give. But time is relentless, and eventually, I found myself without even her to hold onto.

And when she was gone, so was the last of my security.

Alone in a World That Shows No Mercy

With no support system, I was left to figure out life on my own. There were no soft landings, no comforting words when things fell apart—only the harsh reality of survival. The streets are unkind to women with no protection. People take advantage of your desperation, and trust becomes a dangerous gamble.

I befriended people along the way, but those relationships were often short-lived. They weren’t built on love or loyalty, just convenience—people looking for what they could take, not what they could give. And love? Love was just another word for betrayal. The men I trusted only added to my pain, reinforcing the lesson that I was truly on my own.

I faced homelessness. I faced rejection. I faced abuse. I carried life inside me while enduring suffering that no woman should ever have to bear alone.

But still, I pushed through.

When the Only Choice Is to Keep Going

There’s something about hardship that either breaks you or builds you. For the longest time, I thought I was breaking. But every time I thought I had reached my limit, I found another ounce of strength buried somewhere deep inside me.

Because here’s the truth: no one is coming to save you.

That was a hard lesson to accept, but once I did, I started moving differently. I stopped looking for someone to rescue me and became my own savior. I stopped mourning the family I never had and started building a life that I could be proud of.

And if you’re reading this, nodding because you know this kind of pain, I want you to know something—you are not weak because you’ve struggled. You are not unworthy because life has been unkind to you. And you are not destined to stay in survival mode forever.

Building Stability Where None Existed

For women who have had to navigate life alone, there is often an overwhelming sense of exhaustion. A longing for softness, for ease, for the kind of security that was never given to us. And while we can’t change the past, we can change how we move forward.

• Stop looking for people to complete you—You are already whole.
• Heal the wounds that abandonment left—Because they don’t have to define you.
• Create the love and security you were never given—For yourself and for those who come after you.

No, I was not given a safety net. I was not given a roadmap. But I am still here. And if I can keep going, so can you.

Your past may have shaped you, but it does not have to define you. The life you build from here? That part is up to you.