The Circle of Becoming: Self-Discovery •Becoming • Purpose

There’s something sacred about a woman’s heart.

We feel deeply. We love hard. We forgive even when it hurts.
And sometimes… we forget to protect ourselves in the process.

Lately, I’ve been sitting with one verse that just keeps echoing in my spirit:
“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” – Proverbs 4:23 (KJV)

This isn’t just a cute verse to quote when someone breaks your heart. It’s instruction. It’s a warning. And honestly—it’s a lifeline.

When God says “guard your heart,” He’s not asking us to become cold, distant, or emotionally unavailable. He’s telling us to honor the very center of our being. Because your heart? It’s where everything flows from—your peace, your purpose, your decisions, your love, your ability to show up.

As women, especially those of us who lead with empathy, we often confuse compassion with obligation.
We stay too long.
We see potential and ignore patterns.
We give grace to people who have no intention of growing.
We silence our discernment because we don’t want to seem judgmental or harsh.
And before we know it—we’re drained, heartbroken, and wondering how we got here.

The truth is, the enemy doesn’t just want to destroy your life. He wants access to your heart. Because if he can wear down your ability to trust, to love, to believe… he can keep you from becoming who you were created to be.

Boundaries Are Not Bitterness

Let me be real—guarding your heart doesn’t mean building walls. It means installing gates.

Gates can open and close.
Gates are controlled.
Gates allow you to choose what comes in and what needs to stay out.

We are called to move in love, but not lose our discernment. That’s the balance. That’s the wisdom. You can love someone and still say, “I can’t allow this behavior in my space.” You can care deeply and still say, “I need to protect my peace.”

A Moment to Reflect

If you’re like me, maybe you’ve had seasons where you gave too much of your heart away. Where your nurturing turned into neglect—neglect of yourself. But this is your reminder that your softness is beautiful and it deserves to be protected.

Ask Yourself:

• When was the last time I paused to check what I was letting into my heart?
• Have I confused love with self-abandonment?
• What would it look like to lead with love and boundaries?

You’re Allowed to Be Both

You can be warm and wise. Soft and strategic. Loving and discerning. Don’t let the world make you feel like you have to choose. Protecting your heart doesn’t make you less of a woman—it makes you one who honors the divine within her.

Because when our hearts are whole and guarded with love and intention—we become unstoppable.

With you in the journey,
–The Circle of Becoming-